When I was married I didn’t think twice about spending, saving, or doing whatever was necessary with the money my then husband brought home. Being married implied that we shared responsibilities (and irresponsibilities)-which included the handling of money. I presume it to be different now that I’m simply dating and co-habituating with the boyfriend. I don’t ask for money all that often and when I do and I get it it’s never tangible. He’s responsible for the purchases of whatever we’re in need of from the minor like soap to the major such as paying a bill. So if I manage to actually ask him for something he’s the one that makes the purchase.
I’ve expressed my desire to be joint on his account and he turned me down. He said that we could open an account together and then put money into-that in my opinion seemed like too much of a hassle so I declined. Sometimes I think there’s something he’s hiding, but it may just be a guy thing. I don’t know, but I’m ready to complete school and find a job (in total reverse order at this point) and have my own. Depending on someone that isn’t my husband (and I couldn’t depend on me him either) leaves me feeling some kind of way and I don’t like it.
I should have waited before moving in with him. I should have secured a job, created a solid savings account, I should have done a lot of shit that I didn’t, but life is one fucked up lesson learned so…I digress.
